Stop Caring About What Others Think of You!

Ever experienced anxiety wondering about what people are people are thinking about you? Laid awake all night with thoughts of what they’re saying about you swirling around in your mind?

According to Psychology Today, “To feel accepted is a nearly universal human desire.”  I don’t know about you, but that’s comforting to me!  We’re not alone! We all want to control what other people think about us.

So how do we stop caring so much about what other people think?  Easier said than done, right?  In my new YouTube video, I’m sharing some of the things I’ve done to calm my anxiety and stop the crazy train.

Step 1: Address the Things You’re Thinking

Do you assume the worst? Totally overlook the good in a situation? Pay attention to only the bad? Look, it’s human nature to tend toward negative thinking. Then that negativity affects our mood and it’s so easy to get caught in a never-ending spiral of negativity.

Tip:

I’ve found that journaling helps me to recognize what I’m thinking.  (I LOVE Emily Ley’s guided journal: A Standard of Grace) Once my thoughts are written down on paper, in clear black and white, it’s much easier to see my thought patterns and what is or isn’t true.  Then I can take steps to readjust the way I think!

Step 2: Reach Out to Someone

It’s SO easy for our brains to just run and sometimes those spiraling thoughts can do some major damage when there isn’t someone else around to provide a little reality check.  So find someone you can talk to! Having an outside, unbiased perspective and some encouragement from a trustworthy friend (or three) is usually just the thing I need to stop the overanalyzing.

Step 3: Focus Where it Counts

Worrying isn’t just unproductive, it can be seriously detrimental to our health, our time, our relationships. That long night laying awake in bed, running through ALL the worst case scenarios probably kept you from waking up refreshed and exercising, right? That video or selfie you overanalyzed and ended up not posting might have been exactly what someone else needed to hear! By changing the focus from the negative to the positive, we waste much less energy on fear and worry.

Tip:

Positive self-talk! It may sound silly, but this can work wonders. Before I get on stage to speak, I tell myself things like, “My message is important!” and “I'm going to help these amazing people get on video!” and “What I'm going to teach today is going to help them change their businesses!”

Step 4: Accept That You Won't Please Everyone!

As the saying goes, "Better to be loved by a few people YOU care about, then liked by everyone" I know, it’s hard to ignore the trolls when putting yourself out there is so vulnerable. But think about this: why does this person feel the need to tear me down? What are they doing with their lives? Likely, they’re being mean because they need to watch this video! They need to stop thinking so much about others and what they think, and focus on themselves and positivity.

Side Note:

I actually love getting comments from trolls. I get to respond in a way that I feel good about, and 9 times out of 10, there’s no response because they know they‘re wrong!

Step 5: Life is too short!

We only get one life to live and it goes by INCREDIBLY fast! Remember it's your life, not anyone else’s. You get to do you!

REMEMBER! There will always be people who will judge you, even if you were perfect (which no one is), but your biggest fans will ALWAYS be cheering you on! They’re not going to be judging you, they’ll be right beside you with love and encouragement! Want to hear more about my personal journey to stop caring what other people think of me? Go ahead, click on the video!

Interested in exploring more about this? One of my favorite people to watch here on YouTube Amy Landino also has a video on HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU I definitely suggest watching her video right here if you are really struggling with this today. She has some great takeaways that will help you too!

Five Work At Home Jobs You Can Start TODAY

Do you feel like a black cloud appears over your head the second you pull into the parking lot at work?  I did!  In 2015, I realized that life is too short to spend 8+ hours a day doing something that left me feeling frustrated and unfulfilled.  So I started my own business!

But I know that running a business isn’t for everyone.  Hey, even I’ve considered going to work for someone else too!  So if you are looking to leave your 9-5 but don’t want to start your own business OR you have a business but it’s not working for you, I’ve got some ideas for you. 

5 JOBS YOU CAN DO FROM HOME (& HOW TO FIND THEM)

  • VIRTUAL ASSISTANT ($35-50 an hour)

    There are so many different directions you can go with this one! VAs can manage calendars, act as a personal assistant, work in customer service, engage with clients, schedule newsletters… the opportunities are endless!

    How do you get started?

    Check out The Virtual Savvy - Abbey Ashley is a Virtual Assistant Mentor with TONS of helpful content. BONUS: her community can help you find a job!

    Use Facebook groups to find where the entrepreneurs are hanging out and learn about what they’re looking for. It might even result in getting hired! You can also find a local small business and offer your services - there’s no better way to learn then by DOING!

  • SOCIAL MEDIA PLANNER ($15-40 an hour)

    Social Media Planners can create content, schedule posts, design graphics, track engagement and so much more over a variety of platforms. Think Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, YouTube, blogs, you name it.

    How do you get started?

    There are so many great online courses to learn how to do all of the different elements!

    Again, there’s no better way to learn than by actually doing it! Find a friend who’s looking for help with social media and help her out! Or create your own business account and study the analytics… look for patterns and figure out what WORKS!

  • PODCAST EDITOR ($10-40 an hour)

    This is a growing niche and isn’t as difficult as you might think! With just your laptop, GarageBand and some earbuds, you can be a podcast editor!

How do you get started?

Check out Jenna Kutcher’s online course, The Podcast Lab. It’s a step-by-step program to teach podcasters how to plan, record, upload, launch, share, and monetize their podcasts.

  • ONLINE SURVEY TAKER ($50-200 a month)

    Did you know you can actually get paid to take surveys online? Sign up through a few different survey websites, fill in your demographic information and start getting surveys in your inbox. This probably isn’t going to replace your full-time income, but it can provide great supplemental income!

    Here are some websites to start with:

  • App/Website Tester (around $8-10 per website)

    This is another one of those options that sounds more intimidating than it is! Entrepreneurs want feedback on their websites from their target audience and, most likely, you’re their ideal client! Just like the survey taker option, sign up through a few different websites, enter your demographics, and the jobs will start coming in!

    Here are some websites to start with:

I hope you now feel like you have options! Please let me know what you think and if you’re wanting to make changes to your work life now! Also, if you feel like you’re interested in starting your own business, check out my video on 10 Money Making Businesses You Can Start in 2019!

How to START and GROW Your YouTube Channel from Scratch

You’ve been thinking about starting a YouTube channel, but you’re hesitant… is it really an effective use of your time? Can it really enhance your business that much?

You’ve been creating and posting YouTube videos but haven’t seen any growth… subscriber count isn’t increasing, number of likes isn’t rising. Is anyone actually watching?!

If either of these scenarios sounds familiar, this video is for YOU!

I want to share some of my biggest tips (and secrets!) for starting and growing a successful YouTube channel. Stop doing the wrong things and focus your efforts on what works!

  1. POST VIDEOS! Yes, you actually have to post videos for people to see them on your channel :)

  2. TELL PEOPLE. Use the audience you already have: FRIENDS & FAMILY! A view is a view.

  3. FOCUS ON A NICHE - What are you trying to teach your audience? What are you trying to sell? Most importantly…

    What VALUE does your channel bring to the viewer?

  4. BECOME A STUDENT! Tim Schmoyer of Video Creators says, “You have to watch YouTube videos to understand YouTube.” Spend 15-30 minutes watching videos.

    BONUS: like and comment! After all, it is a community-building platform!

  5. DO THE BASICS: Utilize YouTube best practices - create good TITLES and THUMBNAILS!

  6. BE CONSISTENT. Once a week, once every other week, either is okay! People will get excited and start to plan their days around your launch time. Remember, QUALITY OVER QUANTITY!

  7. CREATE DISCOVERABLE CONTENT. People love HOW-TO videos, learning new TIPS and TRICKS and hearing ADVICE, and they’re constantly searching for it. Plan these types of videos!

    (watch the video to hear about the process and tools I use to make sure I can post consistently) 

  8. CREATE BINGEABLE CONTENT. Adopt a Netflix mentality and create Netflix-style videos. Your videos should relate and interlock… tell your viewers to watch the next relevant video!

Want to know more? Watch the full video and then let me know… what are your biggest questions about starting or growing a YouTube channel? How are you planning to implement what you just learned?!